The Depression Stage of Grief
”I can’t do anything, I am too sad.” These are statements made by a person passing through depression stage of grief. Although anger and sadness remain at the base, the person feels numb. As one comes face to face with the reality of living life after losing someone they loved, depression sets in. Empty feelings surface and the grief enters on a deeper level, much deeper than we had ever imagined.
The depression stage of grief feels as though it will last forever. Here, its important to comprehend that this depression is not a sign of any mental illness. It is the right and natural response to a great loss. As we are left in a fog of intense sadness, we tend to withdraw from life. One often words if there is any point in moving on alone.
The emotions in depression stage of grief are too often seen as unnatural. People expect you to snap out of it fast and fix the emotions. The loss of a loved one is a very depressing situation to be in. It would be unusual to not to experience any depression after a loved one dies. So look at depression as a normal and appropriate response.
The first question to ask yourself in the depression stage is to analyze if the situation you’re in is actually depressing. When a loss completely settles in your soul and the comprehension that your loved is not coming back ever is understandably depressing. Depression is one of the many necessary steps along the way to help you heal.
Generally, two types of depression are related with mourning. As our sadness and regret prevails, how we react to the practical implications relating to the loss is the first kind of depression. Worrying over the cost of treatment and burial or thinking if we have spent less time with the person emotionally dependent on us, the depression stage of grief may be eased out by simple elucidation and comfort. All one needs is a bit of cooperation and a few kind words. The second type of depression is more delicate and, perhaps more private. Completely alone and on our own, each one of us makes a quiet preparation to separate and say final farewell. Sometimes all we really need is a big hug in the depression stage of grief.
